THE RULES SOME NEVER LEARN! JUSTINJ AND HIS TEA!

I just really hate to deal with mess. I say it time after time, in my postings. My goal for this blog is to cover anything to do with the Dancing Dolls and the Show Bring It. My intention, was to make it all positive and all great information type articles. However, it would appear that mess keeps popping up and I refuse to walk away, quietly, when it involves one of the girls, directly.

Yet again, our YouTube Wanna Be Comedian, JustinJ, has decided to bust out with his analysis of something, Doll related. Most of the time and especially when it involves Dianna, I don't speak out much. Dianna is a grown ass woman and baby, she is more than capable of standing up to this punk.

So until, like the previous article, I feel the need to step in, I stand and let her handle it. But this latest attack is on Kayla. And why? Because, he saw a photo of her and analyzed EXACTLY what she was thinking. LOL. Not only is JustinJ a Comedian(not), he is also a photo analyst. He can actually tell exactly what a person's thought process is, by seeing a photo of them. LOL.

So the video, which I won't post, was about Kayla being jealous of  the Triple Threat Tour, which involves Sunjai, Tamia and Crystianna. He got that because of the snake associated with the picture. Again, amazing his psychic abilities. He seems to think he has, an inside track, on how much everybody involved, is making and assumes,  Kayla is mad, cuzz she isn't making as much money as the girls on the Triple Threat Tour! WHAT? He doesn't have a job, but has knowledge of income for everybody....LOL..... I didn't listen to the whole thing because it was just too much.

It was a weak video to begin with and so funny...which, oh wait...if the video was funny...maybe in some twisted, out of this world way, he is some sort of comedian. No, but it sounded good for a half of a second. LOL.

But lets go ahead and pour some of that TEA HE loves so much.

So To begin with JustinJ1232 would appear to be a nice boy. He isn't too hard to look at, though he is hard to listen to.









What are JustinJ's contributions to society?

1. Extreme lack of English skills
2. Has no visible means of supporting himself(He has no place to live and no job)
3. Constant attacks on people he knows, won't come back and confront him directly.
4. Attacks on children(Appears to be an expert on Children, though he has none)
5. Becoming an online  beggar(Dude Posted a Paypal Donation Button on his VLOG!..Where's his sign?)
6. He has no desire to put the effort in, to become anything but a "FREE RIDER"
7. Entertaining the haters who can't do anything themselves but hate
8. Attempting to be an Entertainment Critic

So knowing, what a successful and productive human being he is, makes us have so much more respect for his opinion of Dianna and the Dolls. Well no, but he seems to think that it does.

There are rules in life and JustinJ has never learned them.

1. You can talk shit, if you have done shit.
2. You are respected, if you have earned respect
3. You are capable, if you have proven you have capabilities or are working to prove that.
4. You can offer your advice and it will be taken, if you have the lived enough to have that wisdom to offer. 
5. You don't talk trash about kids...especially if you are a bonafide loser.

So, I am not going to make this a long, drawn out article. I would like to reach out to JustinJ and say this. Go back to school.....learn proper English...learn to write proper English...vs writing stuff that is obviously, so ignorant. Learn to talk with enough intelligence, so as not to appear to be from 40 miles out in the woods, if you want to be on camera.....Get a damn life for God's sake...a job...be productive. How do you expect to be an online beggar and call yourself capable of judging anyone?

Don't you realize how you look? I mean seriously the way you attacked Kayla....WOW dude...desperation at its best. IF you had anything but that green eyed monster working in your mind, you would be lifting ANY young person up to be greater than they could have been. BUT your anger and jealously is so overwhelming and obvious, it is just sad. Your obvious, SELF IMPOSED, opinion of WHY she posted that picture, at that moment, was a fabrication in your own mind. YOU are not a mind reader or a psychic. You have no profiling experience with the FBI, to be able to determine a person's mindset from a photograph. So Just STOP!

You have gone through the stuff, you have gone through, because of your own insecurities and anger...and because you are too lazy to work, but somehow, you think you are going to win with this type of Video Blog.  And you will always win with  haters...but that won't feed you...the haters ain't going to support your blog with DOLLARS....LOL!!!....WHY? CAUSE THEY ARE HATERS! LOL...They just want to hear you make an ass of yourself, so they can laugh at you....if you are trying to pay for that motel room off of those folks...its gonna be a long night!

I truly wish JustinJ would just stop talking about the Dolls...it would save me time and effort. However,  I won't be silent when it comes to these girls. JustinJ's incessant need to attack the girls of the Dollhouse,
won't be tolerated. You just don't attack kids. The deal here is...you attack them...I will dig and dig and dig until I have the same medicine for you....we can tit for tat all year long....Talk trash.....I talk trash..Totally your choice...I would venture, my attacks can be just as detrimental to your situation as you hope yours will be to the ladies of the Dollhouse Dance Factory....

I can do it as long as you can....LEAVE THE GIRLS ALONE! BE AN ADULT!
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DDS NATION'S RESPONSE TO JUSTIN J---THE NON-FAMOUS YOUTUBE-HATER

As a rule, I don't get too involved with mess. As another rule, I always use caution when I write about the Dolls or Dianna, or anything to do with the show. Caution in stating things as facts or caution when defending them. Dianna don't like mess either. She tells fans all the time to be bigger than the haters and to hold your tongue...don't respond and keep the mess going...ALL OF THAT! She realizes that if you feed the damn dragon, you better be ready to keep on fighting it.....So in that same spirit of rational thinking, I try very hard to temper my comments and be aware of the fights I choose to pick at.

Having said that, I am compelled, by my conscious and my strong belief, in the goals of the Dollhouse and of Dianna, to answer the latest video from this, shockingly obvious, under achiever and hater. Justin J.

Sorry in advance Dianna & Robert...I have stuck to low controversy and positive articles...uplifting posts and fun information and comments. But just like you, I am tired...I am tired of ignorant folks and bad attitudes from the haters...So I apologize for stirring the pot, but it has to be said by someone other than ya'll.                                              

As I watched this video start, the first question I have is WHY? Why would Justin do this? He doesn't look stupid, much, but yet he feels he can make a life and living, by trashing other people...most notably, Dianna Williams. But to understand why he has chosen her as a target....lets backtrack just a little bit. Justin latched on to Doll Fame early in the process. He saw an opportunity and he jumped out like somebody set his butt on fire. He thought he could just act like a Bull in a China Shop and Dianna would just comply with his wishes....When that didn't pan out, he turned bitter. Now, he spends his life mad and vengeful..about her and her new life.

Since then, he has made video after video about Dianna. He has taken everything she has done and exaggerated it and lied about and used any questionable source to try and validate his theories of Dianna. Now, with all of the controversy in the last couple of weeks, at the Dollhouse, Justin has made yet another video. This one takes the Tamia issues and makes every accusation under the sun about Dianna and Robert Williams.

I don't know the details of the Tamia story. I know what the rumor mills have said and I know what Dianna and Robert have said. I know what other people associated with the Dolls have said. To Tamia and her Mom...I have to say, I am sorry this all happened...Folks loved Tamia for sure. But, I have no intention of trying to figure out who is right or wrong in this issue. I don't have enough facts to make that call and it ain't my business. Dianna has to make decisions for her business..based on many factors. Justin J doesn't have anymore info than I do. He has taken a letter and some disgruntled opinions and used it to bore the hell out of us for, what seemed like 2 damn hours. So here is my response to the video...What deals they made or anything else is something they know...not him nor I. To be so ignorant as to assume, we can judge what Dianna did or did not do..is funny...We are just fans or folks on the outside...LOL

To Justin J:
It is very sad to watch someone crash and burn over ignorance. From your own admission, you have no job...you have had numerous issues over the last few months...you are nowhere. Want to know why? My guess Karma...That Bitch that you keep inviting to your life. You put your ignorance in the street and it came back a sack of boo boo.

While listening to your ranting and raving...I tried to focus on the audience that you might have, from making this video..I know you don't make any money on it but it is clear, you think you have a following. The audience I came up with and confirmed by the comments you had, haters, just like you. They have nothing going on it life and so they sit around figure out, who they can hate today. Of course you make it easy with Dianna...cause you hate her so much. It burns your butt that she ignored you.

Let's clear up exactly what your issues are:

DEFINITION OF HATER: Why People HATE: 

1. JEALOUSLY: If a person doesn't have anything going on in their own life, they tend to always be looking at others. If others have more fun, money or anything else, the hater spends their time being mad at that person. 

2.YOU APPEAR TO BE A THREAT: When people feel threatened by someone, one of the first responses is HATE...It creates the drive and adrenaline, to compensate for fear.

3. RESENTMENT: When you have failed at life or have created problems for yourself that are impossible to fix, you look for anyone and everyone that supposedly contributed to your woes. It is easier to focus on that hate, than to do something productive with your life.

Hate is a powerful tool and has furthered the careers of many. However, you, Justin will realize that all fame and fortune, associated with HATE, is short lived. That same Karma, I spoke of earlier, always rides in the same car with HATE and MEANNESS and all of the other negative feelings and things associated with human nature.

The "WAY" that you talk about Dianna, Robert and others on the show with such disrespect, speaks much louder than the ramblings on your YouTube Channel. You are mad they have money, which you spoke of more than 8 times....you are mad cause they bought a new car for Dianna and they didn't have perfect credit......you are mad cause everybody on the show(according to your limited knowledge and experience) aren't getting paid big money for camps and stuff...What else?...Fame...Fortune & Lifestyle! Does that sum it up pretty good? Oh and the Trademark thing...LOL..You were really ranting about that..

I don't know your background....as far as education or anything. I am speaking from the 5 or 6 times, I have watched you, but what I get is, you are very limited, on what you actually know and what you ASSUME, appears to be wide spread and bursting at the seems.  You appear to take a little information and blow it up for the silly asses that subscribe to you, then add that Memphis Country Ass accent, and the small minded mentality to it, then Spin it off the Wall! FYI! That's called a "RAG SITE" "RAG INFORMATION"..." RAG MENTALITY"

You don't have a copy of the contract they signed...you don't know how much they are making and you don't know what the inside deal is with the girls....What you don't know...EVEN MORE...is "Dianna"..you stand back and judge her and talk bad about her but you don't even see where she has been or why she got to this point. You use her past, as a weapon instead of an example of determination to do better and to help others.

It totally, just makes me silent with wonder, over folks like you...JUDGING...but baby you can preach some bullshit...self righteous and self serving bullshit....about everybody BUT yourself...YOU WANT TO BE SOMEBODY SO BAD....LOL...But WHO have you been? What have you done, positive in life? Have you helped, influenced or otherwise been a good example of succeeding in life? That would probably be a no...LOL But you talk bad about someone who has.....WOW!

Well sugar, you are somebody...you are clueless...you are amazingly naive....you are outrageously stupid...but you got a YOUTUBE video, with thousands of views....didn't make no money...but folks agreed with you for two seconds....folks with the same HATER mentality...folks who rather hate than help....stand back and laugh instead of jumping in and doing something good in life...but dang, you are there buddy..you made it...YOUR OPINION...LIKE MILLIONS OF ASSHOLES JUST LIKE YOU...in the end has no bearing on Dianna...the show or the people left.

So get a grip silly little boy....and grow the hell up...how old are you? 18...oh nah...you ain't but you just act that way...okay...got it....lol. And just know this one last thing.

Dianna Williams and Robert CEO Williams took the Dollhouse, after both completed college and both were involved in the community with kids...and they worked their asses off...they struggled...they cried...they eat a lot of cheap meals...they lost vehicles...their credit took a hit...they lived freaking hard....BUILDING SOMETHING POSITIVE... The parents who have been bringing their children to the Dollhouse for all of those years...did not have a CLUE...Dianna would be where she is now...They are here because she is here...It was the efforts of Dianna and Robert and close friends, that put the time and effort into getting them, to this point.
Dianna and Robert's Blood, Sweat and Tears...not anyone else's...Dianna's dream of reaching girls from everywhere, came true because she busted her ass to make it happen...And YES the girls and parents, have worked their butts off too...traveling and dancing...but they signed on for it...under the conditions offered...no hidden clauses or lack of information.

It is apparent that you don't have a clue, what it means to go for a dream. You have never put the efforts in YOUR dreams to make them happen.  You don't have a clue what it means to use one tool to gain ground to other options. You don't have a clue about way too much, for me, to spend my time explaining. Stupid and Hate are not easy fixes...and I ain't your Mama.....You CHOOSE to live off of the backs of others and off of their ISSUES AND PROBLEMS. That's fine. As I said earlier..Karma is a bitch and when you try to act like you are a good person but then your tongue gives you away, it always comes back. God don't like ugly.

And before you say what a suck up or whatever, I am...let me say this....I have spent the last year or more, watching Dianna and this show. I saw the influence it has, through personal family experience...the positive and the beneficial. The change in attitudes of girls around me. For me it has nothing to do with the show..it is the bigger picture. I don't CARE how much money they make or what they do with it...

One thing, you don't see for sure. The main thing, that anyone.... who spends 5 minutes, getting to know Dianna is....... You can only get on her boat... if you are willing to work... as  hard as she has, to get there. She has NEVER, had a free ride..she obviously went through crap earlier in life and she don't have tickets for FREE RIDES, to give out. You don't want to put in the effort and time, then you probably should move around...

If there is a situation involving the Dolls, that offers opportunities...like many have gotten, then you damn sure better be ready to go for it. That means, she opened the door and if you are willing to pursue it, then you can have a chance, to go further...as many have.....NO FREE RIDES....WHY WOULD THERE BE? Life has no FREE RIDES...LOL..She didn't have one....WHY WOULD ANYBODY EXPECT THAT?

So let me offer one last comment about this and if you see this and offer a rebuttal...know this. I don't back up and I don't back down...ever...I don't play about what I believe in..I don't argue with opinion..I argue with facts and Fact is, you are someone who, if you chose to never do another video about what you think you know, nobody would think about it again. And I have to say...I am too...I don't have a status in fame...though I have written over 300 articles and do all kinds of stuff...but my goal was never fame...it was leaving a record for my family to know who I was and what I felt and thought about many things...from politics to religion to entertainment.

But everything I write, I try really hard to write, based on facts or researched for the best facts out there. Going to college for Journalism, taught me that much. It would be such an amazing thing if you chose to use your joy, for being seen on youtube, for something other than the "RAG EFFECT"! You may even have a bigger following and a following that is more educated and more interesting, than the current bunch on there. But you probably won't. It is a lazy man's life, who rides off of the efforts he scavenges from others...without putting any effort into it himself...and when they ride is over, he is scavenging for another ride...but NEVER his own ride....

Dianna isn't going away...EVEN if the show stopped filming tomorrow, she has done the same thing she has been doing forever...she has lived what she has preached...GO FOR IT! All of it....opportunities to go outside of the show and expand. So you just keep on thinking that your ranting and raving and repeating the same blah, blah, blah...over and over is going to do anything positive in your life.....you will still be the sad little person you are..sitting around with the other haters...hatin life...LOL..10 years from now...and Dianna and Robert and others who WORK for GOOD THINGS, will be down the road...living and loving life...and the only thing anyone will remember about you and your " RAG VIDEOS" are that you were a sad, sad, little man...who can only be classified...as the HATER Guy...oh What's his name...Dang...can't remember......

Oh by the way..your comments about Robert and the CEO thing...AND the wonderful, productive, beneficial to many,coaching that he does...LOL...YOU CAN'T DO THAT EITHER...LOL...NOW YOU ARE REALLY MAD...LOL...I BELIEVE THEY CALL THAT SUPER MAD...LOL...BLESS YOUR HEART!


LOL...WOW...That's a great way to go out Dude!..FYI..IF you were really that good at the youtube thing..you would have a job by now...probably a clue......Get a Life...or maybe get used to Karma....LOL.

All Comments Welcome...LOL...Let's Go! LOL...

THE YEAR OF DIANNA WILLIAMS AND THE DOLLS

Well it has been just over a year since I became a fan of Dianna Williams and the Dancing Dolls. My first encounter was my granddaughter telling me about them. She was so excited and her first comments were, " Nana, you need to watch this show...Ms Dianna don't play...she is yelling and talking pure trash!" I must have laughed for a full minute, listening to her describe this new show called "Bring It".

I got the chance to see it the next Wednesday. I was totally hooked. Not because anybody was yelling or because Dianna was talking trash. I was instantly hooked because of the mission I could see in this program. Dianna's mission. Teaching girls to have goals and to be dedicated and to work hard for their dreams. Just seeing the affect it was having on my granddaughter, was enough to get involved.

From there, it has been a whirlwind. We have attended the camp in Dallas, took a roadtrip with 4 kids to the Dollhouse and to the first show of this season..I have made hundreds of pictures and many videos to post on Social Media and have written 35 articles for the Fan Blog here. I have met many of the folks from the show and love talking with them, when they have time on Facebook. My intention was not to do the stuff I have done but after seeing the impact, I felt I had to offer any help I could. Since the Internet and Social Media is what I do for work, I thought that would be the perfect contribution. I have loved every second of being involved and truly hope I have contributed to more exposure for this wonderful show.
With so much crap on TV, it was so refreshing to see a show that promoted morals, goals and dedication. I talked to folks who called Dianna a loud mouth and said, How can what she is doing help anybody?.....LOL. Okay. There were comments made that she was teaching the girls to be strippers and porn stars....LOL..Okay...LOL. We had the folks who just had to say, over and over the history of Dianna..any mistake she ever made was thrown in the streets.
I think, all of those negative statements, probably fall into the "Everybody has an opinion" category. It seemed in the beginning, the haters, just jumped out of nowhere, daily. I am sure everybody on the cast of Bring It, grew extremely tired of the mess. There was even a guy on YouTube who was point blank, calling Dianna all sorts of nasty stuff. He was soooo mad when the fans just blew up his page with comments defending Dianna and the Dolls.

But, as with all things that are good...the right thing, wins out over the negative. We are past a year with the show and with the mission of Dianna Williams. We have watched her blossom from a blunt force, trash talking country girl, from Jackson Mississippi, to a beautiful, elegant woman, who can handle herself in any situation. The goal, of helping girls become strong women in Jackson has turned into the sensation of Lifetime TV and has crossed the country like wildfire. Everywhere you go, you find Dancing Doll fans. They are packing the gyms and theaters to get a chance to see all of the Dolls. T shirts fly out the door...girls and guys are signing up for the workshops given in major cities and social media is recording about 250,000 fans and counting. This little ole country girl from down in the Good Ole South, is showing America what they didn't know.


In just over a year, Dianna has taken every opportunity to work and build a positive, long term business. Now, she has created an umbrella of business, that will carry her miles past TV and the Show. She has spent every second planning and using the doors opened to her, to put together a strong conglomerate of businesses. All which will benefit kids and the goals of dancing. Such as the new Dance Studio opening soon, in Atlanta Georgia. With the opening of her new offices, she now can manage things for many ventures, through one place. Having more staff and dedicated associates work directly on projects, will give Dianna more reach and more access to bigger and better opportunities. As we look over the last year and a half, we have not only seen Dianna change and grow, We have also watched girls and women, who also came from Jackson MS, get thrown into the spotlight as well. Women, who didn't start out looking for fame and Hollywood. Just regular, hard working, beautiful women, who wanted their daughters to have every chance possible, to have wonderful lives. Little did they know where it would all go. They have faded dumb stuff..they have taken abuse and negativity, way beyond what most people endure in a lifetime. It has truly shown just how tough and smart, Southern Women are and how willing to fight for better and for our kids, we are.

Tina, Mimi, Selena and Rittany have taken America's hearts by storm. We watched them grow and adapt and be the beautiful Moms, we know them to be. They never wavered, in their goal to help make this show a roaring hit. They have all used this opportunity to help secure better futures for their families and for their own lives. And the girls themselves...WOW..the transformation in pictures from the beginning until now, is amazing. Our BDD...what tough and resilient sweethearts. They are all so grown up and glamorous. From the BDD to our Dolls. It has been like watching butterflies emerge from their cocoons. And,though Kayla has graduated and Tina is no longer an active DDP, so to speak, I feel assured, we will continue to see both of them on the show.

It has been an exciting year for so many in the Dollhouse. It has also been exciting for fans. As a loyal DDS Nation founder & member(Dancing Doll Supporter Nation Founder & Member), I love seeing the reactions of people from everywhere. With over 10,000 views on this blog and thousands and thousands of views on Social Media posts, I have watched the passion take over and watched fans flock to the defense and support of the Dolls, like nothing I have ever seen.

All we have to do is post that someone said something that was negative or hurtful to ANYONE on the Dolls and thousands begin to blow up the opposing views or posts. LOL..No doubt the Dancing Dolls and Dianna Williams of little ole Jackson Mississippi have created a loyalty and a following that is going to last a long, long time. Any event with the Dolls involved sells out, long before its time.Season 2B starts in less than a month and we know the fans are ready. Everybody is excited and waiting to see who our girls battle next and what exciting things will happen at the Dollhouse. I see changes and upsets coming. We will have to wait and see though.

I salute you Dianna Williams and all of the people who have worked so hard to make this happen. I think yall are beautiful and I totally love seeing it happen. It is amazing and reassures me that as I get older and closer to the end of my life, that there are tons of young women teaching our next generation of women to be strong and to go for their dreams. This is so important. The roles women feel they can have in life has changed dramatically, since I was a young girl.
With people like Dianna Williams and the young women she is teaching, women will continue to evolve and grow into adults that are not taken for granted or abused or ignored, because they are women.
I will always be one of your
biggest fans and supporters. God Bless All Of You! On to the next year of success and blessings.

DD4L...DDP...BDD.....DDS NATION...

BULLIES: Surviving The Pain & Winning In Life!

BULLY: DEFINITION

noun, plural bullies.
1.a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers
and intimidates smaller or weaker people.

2.a person hired to do violence.

3.a pimp; procurer. verb (used with object), bullied, bullying.

1.to act the bully toward; intimidate; domineer. verb (used without object), bullied, bullying.

1.to be loudly arrogant and overbearing.
Synonyms

6. cow, browbeat, coerce; terrorize, tyrannize.

British Dictionary definitions for bully

1.

a person who hurts, persecutes, or intimidates weaker people

2.

(archaic) a hired ruffian

Before Facebook and Twitter...before the Internet and Cell phones..there were BULLIES. For thousands of years there have been Bullies. We hear about it more now, than ever before, because of the Internet. However, Bullies are not a new thing. And there are different types of Bullies. As you can see in the definition above, they come in all forms.

Dianna posted a kick off to a new project called #DD4LFansAgainstBullies. This was in response to a Young Fan, she was communicating with. She is a victim of bullying. She has gotten to the point of wanting to commit suicide. Dianna has been telling her how important it was, for her to see, how much folks cared. We hope that everyone has been posting the hashtag above, on the status updates to spread the word. We also hope that if YOU KNOW someone dealing with bullying, you will share this story of survival. There is hope.

I don't know how old this fan is but I wanted to send a special shout-out to her. YOU ARE NOT ALONE...YOU CAN SURVIVE & WIN! No matter what you think you look like or who you think you are...YOU ARE IMPORTANT! That’s why we wanted to tell the story of, a Survivor of Bullying.

She started life in a time when there were no computers or cell phones. When girls were told to stay in their place and not cause trouble. When life was supposed to be simpler and more open and honest. But her world was full of constant fear. Each day brought tears and untold feelings that never went away. As the sun rose in the sky each morning, she would wake up, wondering, what she would have to do that day, to avoid the people, who always seemed to be in the shadows, waiting to torture her.

From the drunken, tirades of her mother, who seemed to only call her by the horrible name she had given her, years before, to the brother, who lived to make her life miserable, to the kids at school, who talked about her family, under their breath and teased her unmercifully . Each morning, she just wanted, to not wake up and to not have to deal with the day. But each time, she knew, she had no choice but to just stand up and face it. Living in a time when suicide was considered a sin and kids just didn't do stuff like that, killing herself was never an option.

She knew she wanted to live and she knew there were people who cared and who loved her, even though it seemed they weren’t paying attention. She just didn't know how to get the support she needed. By age 12 and 1/2, her life, was to the point of total chaos. The abuse and bullying by her Mother had escalated into physical abuse and her brother's level of abuse had increased to regular sexual abuse. The only place she had always felt safe, was gone. Her grandmother had passed and she was on her own to either fight or to just accept it and to know that by accepting, her life would probably be over.

But just like all the times before, her heart told her to fight. To fight with everything she knew. Once accepting that she was not going to take it and that she was willing to do whatever it took to come out of it, her mind was made up. After yet one more fierce episode with her Mom and yet one more bad outcome, she packed what she could carry and walked away from this horrible world. A world that had made her more than ready, to move forward to something else.

Her hope of being totally free from bullying with this drastic move, appeared to be closer than ever. But with life and with bullies, just moving away or running away, doesn't guarantee that you are free of bullying. There are bullies everywhere. They are everywhere because bullies come from situations where they have problems too. Going to an Orphanage, makes that truth more reality, than most folks can absorb.

There are hundreds of kids, all pulled from the only families they have known, thrown together with untrained adults, trying to monitor everybody and everything. The bullying combinations become endless.

Her shyness and lack of self-confidence, made her an instant target & her newly, blossoming body made her even more vulnerable. The bullying seemed to take on a different form in the children's home. She didn't feel the threatening family connection anymore but felt like she was out in the middle of a war, all on her own, with no one to tell or ask for help. She knew that she had to learn to take care of herself and to defend herself, if she was going to survive.

It seemed like 4 years took 10, to her. It finally seemed like she had made it...like she had overcome the bullies and the bad people in her life. Graduation was being set free from prison. She felt strong and sure that she would never have to go through being bullied and abused ever again.

Then she met him. The one thing, she had never encountered in her life. A man, who both stole her heart and shook her world. He was handsome and strong and had all of the right conversations. But he too was a bully. He too, had his way of intimidation and domineering ways. He too was living through his own set of problems. He too wanted the control and power that bullying gives people. Through 16 years of beatings and abuse and degrading, name calling, along with putting her on the street to make money, she succumbed to the bullying. She had been taught that you get married, you have children, you stay until they are grown. So she spent those years, thinking, yet again, she was trapped and there was no way out of the horror, she had allowed. Her children were her saving grace and she clung to that as much as she could.

It would seem, with her life getting turned totally upside down, there would never be a chance to get out of the abuse, she had accepted for so long. Drug abuse...beatings...forced behavior and exploitation appeared to be the final chapter of her life. She was to the bottom of the barrel and at the end of her rope. She had allowed herself to be bullied for so long, she no longer wanted to fight. She only wanted it to stop. She just wanted to be at peace and to be finished with her crazy, out of control life. For the first time in her entire life, she felt her only option was to do what so many were doing. To take her own life. To end the pain and the torture and to give up on trying to be happy or to be okay.

As she stood waiting for the end of her life to be full filled, she prayed what she thought was her final prayer. She asked God to forgive her for being weak and to take care of her family and her children. While she prayed that final prayer, she began to feel a peace in her heart, she had never felt before. But the peace didn't come from knowing her life was about to end, it came from relief that she wouldn't have to be that person anymore....relief from living in terror every single day.

But God wasn't ready for her to go and the next step she made, changed the course of her life forever. Like turning on a light in a dark room, the words she heard, made her realize that she was valuable and important...if to no one else but God...she was worthy of being alive. She heard in her heart, God say, " I make no mistakes and you are valuable to me. Lean on me child, You still have work to do. Know that I will carry you until you are strong again!"

As the tears poured down, the fear went away and the courage, she remembered from so long ago, began to come back. She walked away from the abuse. She declared her freedom from bullying and her freedom from the chains of feeling like she wasn't good enough to be part of this life. She started her journey to becoming the person, God brought her here to be.

Through the years, she has crossed the paths of Bullies, many times. She has dropped her guard but has never again wavered in her promise to NEVER allow ANYONE to make her feel unworthy or unloved again. Because of that promise, she has become strong and confident and capable of standing up to anyone who threatens to Bully or Intimidate or Abuse, who she is.

After years of working on being who she is today, she has also influenced the people around her. Her children, her grandchildren, her friends and family all know she is tough and she don't play about bullying. This has encouraged them to stand up against bullies themselves and to be the protectors of those they meet who appear to be victims. Her confidence that no matter, what she looks like, she is a beautiful person and no matter the opinions of others, she is a valuable part of this world, shows in the work she does and the life she lives.

Bullies are people who have problems themselves. But that doesn't give them permission to abuse others. Whether by the words said or the actions taken, bullying comes in many different ways. It is not okay. It is not funny. It is not cool. 

The girl in the story above is me. I grew up in an abusive, alcoholic family. I fought my brother off of me for years. I fought an abusive husband for over 16 years. I endured a mother who called me "Slut" instead of my name until I couldn't take it anymore.

But after years, when I got to the point of taking my own life, because I was so tired of hurting and feeling the pain I was feeling, I had a life changing event happen. I realized in those moments that no matter WHO you are,

YOU MATTER! GOD DON'T MAKE MISTAKES! YOU HAVE A PURPOSE!

It has been many years now and I am old. I haven't taken abuse or accepted it in my world for many years. Bullies haven't changed since I was a kid. The kids who called me names across the school yard or the intimidation from brothers and other people to make those who allow it do unspeakable things....none of that has changed...it has just evolved into different forms.

We now have instant bullying and instant pain shoveled out. Our kids and others who may not be kids, are trapped, in a pattern of abuse and bullying that sends them to the point of wanting to commit suicide...and many have done that. Young, precious lives taken because they felt no hope....They felt their lives didn't matter anymore…Grown folks, who were just too tired of dealing with other grown folks picking on them…

Our society has allowed bullying to not be a big deal and to let those that are the "BULLIES" get away with it for so long, those that are living through it, lose hope and feel they have no other way out. Changing that, like everything else, takes a village. It takes us recognizing bullying and helping those being bullied to overcome being a victim.

My generation said, get over it and move on....God only knows the victims of bullying from my era, who didn't make it. I was blessed to recognize the truth before, I didn't make it. I recognized that the folks who make our rules of what is acceptable and who is acceptable are inferior themselves and have no right to say who is good and who isn’t because of looks or circumstances.

For anyone who loves the Dancing Dolls and who is reading this article...KNOW THIS...

1.     The people picking on you, have many more problems than you do!

2.     There is no such thing as PERFECT! If they are being mean to you and "BULLYING" YOU...it’s because, they KNOW they are not PERFECT! They are also "undercover scaredy cats"! IF YOU CONFRONT THEM And LET THEM KNOW...YOU AREN'T SCARED OF THEM...they will back down and leave you alone!

3.     GOD DON'T MAKE MISTAKES! You were born for a reason! Even if you don't see a reason, there is one. Don't LEAVE Before You Figure It Out!

4.     All of those so-called BULLIES are just trying to find the same approval you are...they just do it by being mean and treating others badly.

5.     What You Put Up With...You End Up With! If you don't stand up now, you will have to put up with BULLIES your entire life. Life is hard enough without being bullied. 

6.     YOU ARE VALUABLE..YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL...YOU ARE NEEDED!

7.     YOU ARE NEVER ALONE...In today's world, all you have to do is connect to social media...there are millions that are ready to offer support, advice and comfort to those going through problems.

8.     NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF! LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, IF YOU JUST KNOW HOW LOVED YOU REALLY ARE!